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So a gal was approached by a creepy guy at AnthroCon; gal chose to be polite and mostly non-confrontational, guy chose to be creepy. Yesterday, gal wrote a blog post about the event, detailing the creepy guy as a warning to other gals who may have been similarly creeped at.

Since then, gal’s post got linked to on 4chan and lulz.net, which apparently mobilized hordes of knuckle-dragging scumsuckers to mock and harass her, effectively bullying her into removing the post and generally creating a “you better keep your mouth shut if you know what’s good for you, girlie” environment. As a result, she’s now gone quiet about it, and creepy guy is still out there, creeping.

This must not stand.

Creepy guy does not appear to have been an AC attendee, but gal was, and we should be protecting our own. Not only in the case of the incident (’cause even the Dorsai, love ‘em, can’t be everywhere at once), but also when she tries to tell everyone what happened and spread the word.

I’m not posting gal’s name here, because if she feels threatened she’s entitled to her anonymity. But we need to create an environment where gal is the one who is safe and protected by the social fabric, and creepy guys are the ones who get shamed and harassed.

More On the Topic…

Victim shaming & blaming (sexual harassment at Anthrocon)

Dragon*Con’s Back Up Project FAQ

Video Blog on a Different (But Sadly the Same) Event

-The Gneech

(Crossposted to the AnthroCon LJ community and my LiveJournal)

Originally published at gneech.com. You can comment here or there.

Comments

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shockwave77598
Jun. 20th, 2012 01:51 pm (UTC)
If creepy guy wasn't an AC attendee, what could we have done?

I think a good solution is to explain to folks that if creepy guy bothers you, immediately go and find a staffer or security guy. Let security folks handle it. And if security thinks he's not staying in the hotel or part of the con, call hotel security or the police.

Boiled down, the ladies need to be able to grab an able bodied male and throw him in the way.
tashabear
Jun. 22nd, 2012 02:29 am (UTC)
I really hope what you meant is something along the lines of, "People who feel threatened and not up to the task of handling it need to able to quickly and easily find backup they can trust." Because it's not just women who can be harassed and made to feel unsafe, and it's not just men who can take care of such problems.

Signed,

A Woman Who Trains To Be Good Backup
(no subject) - fastclaw - Jun. 20th, 2012 02:19 pm (UTC) - Expand
Rene Gobeyn
Jun. 20th, 2012 08:41 pm (UTC)
Please put me in touch with the original poster
Can you please put me in touch with the original poster? I'd like to get a little more information if I can.

While we can't be everywhere, I don't like hearing that something like this happened at one of the cons I'm responsible for.

Many thanks
Rene Gobeyn (AKA Renegade)D.I.
Anthrocon chief of security
the_gneech
Jun. 20th, 2012 10:06 pm (UTC)
Re: Please put me in touch with the original poster
I will point the person here-- I don't feel right about sending her info to other people. :) Hopefully she will get in touch with you.

-TG
camstone
Jun. 22nd, 2012 12:55 am (UTC)
Re: Please put me in touch with the original poster
Rene - Send me your email - she would like to talk to you. - Camstone
ursulav
Jun. 20th, 2012 09:14 pm (UTC)
Oh, that poor woman. How horrible--damned if you do, damned if you don't.

AC is, in my experience, one of the very safest cons I do, and it's awful to think this happened to somebody there--and that the internet hordes were so vile about it.
kamau_d_lyon
Jun. 20th, 2012 10:03 pm (UTC)
Problem is that the situation the person found themselves in did not allow an immediate escape and if I recall correctly it was post con as this person and other traveling companions were leaving.

My suggestion is that the person file a report with the police and hopefully they could then get security camera footage of the area involved. If the creepy person has a record and/or is a sexual offender what was reported should be enough to put them away.

Best approach for anyone is to always have backup and an action/escape plan in place. But even the best of all plans can fail. In short we need to keep eyes open for each other before, during and after a con.
kelloggs2066
Jun. 20th, 2012 11:21 pm (UTC)
Good Grief!
I'm very sad to hear the story and incredibly disappointed in the conduct of the people involved (except of course the victim!)
kylet
Jun. 21st, 2012 02:21 pm (UTC)
Thanks for doing this. People are totally missing the point. We probably can't convict the @#$%, no. But I heard she was harassed into taking her entry down. Talk about insult to injury. So obviously we need a more public, neutral venue to get it out in the open and talk about it.
Apparently it's fairly widespread, and I'm frankly disgusted and also surprised I hadn't really heard about it before. Just getting the word out here and letting EVERYONE know what to look out for will hopefully do some good in the future.

Edited at 2012-06-21 02:29 pm (UTC)
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