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When Twitter Attacks

The thing with social media is finding the right balance of enough people to follow that you're connected, but not so many you're overwhelmed, comfortable enough that it doesn't cause you distress, diverse enough that it's not just a giant echo chamber...

The past few weeks my mood stability has been on the vulnerable side, and I've found that more often than not social media (and especially Twitter, as it's far and away the most active form of social media) have ranged from wearying to infuriating. So I've been going through and targeting posters who, even if I agree with them, add stress, and quietly unfollowing them.

This is a tricky thing to do when I'm emotionally wobbly... the temptation is to go all Oprah on it. "You get an unfollow, and YOU get an unfollow-- EVERYBODY GETS AN UNFOLLOW!" But that's neither healthy nor productive in the long run, it's just the tendency-towards-implosion that emotional wonkiness creates.

But trimming the social media tree is a good thing every once in a while. There are enough stressors I can't control, there's no reason to hold onto the ones that I can control.

-The Gneech

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haikujaguar
Mar. 27th, 2013 01:44 pm (UTC)
Sadly, I have to find myself doing this a lot. :(

People I often like a great deal seem to use social media as a place to vent their negative thoughts. All their negative thoughts. Especially their anger and pettiness. It's like there's no filter... they go from thinking it to typing it without pausing to think, "does this accomplish anything beyond make me feel better, and maybe just telling my cat might serve the same purpose without polluting everyone else's day".

I'm not going to argue with them that they shouldn't do that. But I can't subject myself to it either, and if it's something they do habitually...
the_gneech
Mar. 27th, 2013 01:54 pm (UTC)
It's an easy trap to fall into, I've done it myself many times, but I always try to break the pattern when I spot it. I can't count the number of times I've hesitated, pondered, then hit "cancel." Hopefully the world is a better place for it. ;)

-TG

haikujaguar
Mar. 27th, 2013 01:57 pm (UTC)
Everyone fails that roll some number of times, and that's okay. It's just doing it constantly that makes it impossible to concentrate.

I once write a post about one of the reasons I hate the casual use of profanity, where I said that I thought of profanity as a huge "THIS IS REALLY UPSETTING SO I AM CURSING ABOUT IT" sign, because, you know, that's what it used to be. When people start using it constantly, it continually hits my "SOMEONE IS REALLY DANGEROUSLY UPSET DO SOMETHING!" button, and jacks up my stress level and makes me think I need to help or fix or stay away.

But then, people do it often enough, and I can no longer tell when they're really upset... or worse, I just assume they're in a state of perma-upset, and I give up on helping. I just stay away all the time.

That's what people need to be aware of when they're constantly dumping negative thoughts like that. They're training the people around them to treat them as the Boy/Girl Who Cried Wolf.
the_gneech
Mar. 27th, 2013 02:02 pm (UTC)
Yes, to everything you just said. ;)

-TG
usagiweaver
Mar. 27th, 2013 02:58 pm (UTC)
Twitter is where I found out what a whiney, petty bitch Alton Brown can be.
haikujaguar
Mar. 27th, 2013 03:00 pm (UTC)
Yes. Alton Brown's twitter stream is appalling, and has destroyed any good image I had of him. :(
doodlesthegreat
Mar. 27th, 2013 02:51 pm (UTC)
I've done that on occasion. Culled out any political & news feeds during the last election, though some of them I have added back since then. Reduced stress significantly.
mortonfox
Mar. 27th, 2013 09:34 pm (UTC)
I've unfollowed more than a few people myself but mainly because they keep spamming the timeline with automated postings from Foursquare, GetGlue, Raptr, etc. I mean I use Foursquare myself but I don't send every single check-in to Twitter.
hantamouse
Mar. 27th, 2013 09:51 pm (UTC)
I thought my 48 was too much and trimmed it. You've got ten times that. I can't even imagine trying to read that.
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