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Tell Me All About It!

On Twitter, today is #TMITuesday, which is a thing I don't and have never understood the appeal of. TMI being "too much information" of course, the basic premise is "hey all you people out there I barely know, send me ridiculously personal questions and I'll give you ridiculously personal answers." ...brilliant. ¬.¬

Fortunately, it's easy enough to not participate in, it's just one of those things that make me shake my head and wonder what the human race is thinking sometimes.

A related phenomenon is the slightly over-eager "Do you want to talk about it?" question. I know as well as anybody that talking over your problems with friends can help you feel better. But when someone I barely know jumps in to every discussion with "What's wrong? Do you want to talk about it?" instead of just making conversation, I immediately become wary. They may be genuinely trying to help, but I've met enough social vampires to know that they may also be trying to latch on like a giant Self-Worth Mosquito.

Both of these phenomena, besides giving unwise openings to those who might not have your best interests at heart, have the unseemly whiff of gossip about them-- gossiping about yourself is still gossip, after all. In the grand scheme of things, it's usually harmless, just incredibly tacky. However, it can do real harm, especially when you mix certain personality types that seem to gravitate towards each other as it is. The would-be-abuser and the would-be-abused seem to attract each other like magnets, and these behaviors are great facilitators for this kind of thing.

As I would prefer to be neither, I make it my policy to steer clear of it.

-The Gneech

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rowyn
Jul. 9th, 2013 02:56 pm (UTC)
I don't do TMITuesday either, and don't see much of it on my feed. The things I do see with that tag never seem to be really ... TMI.

I think the appeal of it is, at least in part, a desire to talk about forbidden-for-no-good-reason-to-the-speaker topics. The way, for example, to some people talking about sex is waaaaaay too private, but for others it's a topic they want to discuss so they can learn useful-to-them skills and information. Not even in a prurient sense but maybe just a mechanical one. But the second group is constrained by usual societal standards from talking about it at all. So they're trying to find like-minded groups with which to discuss stuff. Twitter does not seem like a great place to do this to me, granted, but I grok that a lot of TMI gets that label for reasons that are applicable to-most-but-not-all, and when you're one of the "not all", it's frustrating. :/
moth_wingthane
Jul. 9th, 2013 06:29 pm (UTC)
Well said. Some aspects of life are classed as private for a good reason.
galadrion
Jul. 9th, 2013 10:16 pm (UTC)
Fortunately, it's easy enough to not participate in, it's just one of those things that make me shake my head and wonder what the human race is thinking sometimes.

In general, I haven't noticed that they do think. Certainly, most of them can't; most of the rest won't; and of the small subset who both can and will, most of them are dreadfully ineffective at it.

Most of the problem children, however, are easy enough to filter out. Which is a good thing.
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